It was sometime mid week, last week when I was acquiring some food for thought by reading the newspaper and it suddenly caught my attention. It being a judgement by a certain someone about a girl, wronged by a certain self-claimed ‘God man’. In general circumstances I would have effectively cursed the person and raised a storm over it, but surprisingly I did not react. On a deeper introspection I realised that probably the routine of blaming the girl in the scenario of any abuse (where the girl is the victim) has sunk in. I am not trying to belittle the pain of the kids and men who are abused day in and day out; mind you that small boys and even grown up men go through this kind of heart wrenching ordeal in this country and probably other countries too. But blessed are those who do not have to bear the brunt of going through this pain in redundant cycles of media ‘exposure’. So coming back to where we initially started, ‘why does the women need to be the moth which deliberately gets attracted to the flame’.
I feel this analogy is dysfunctional. No woman would want to be intentionally wronged. There is no pleasure in forced sex. Might be for the sickeningly degenerated mind who rapes, there is but not for the one on whom it is inflicted. But time and again the saviors of the society or the men (whom god created to protected and provide to the women) have made it clear that it is nothing but a figment of my imagination. Probably it is my fault to think that the men in the society are as well read and well bred as me and they understand the perspective of a woman who has emerged better than them but is still magnanimous enough to adopt the man’s name after marriage. probably it is the woman’s fault that she is so good that the man cannot stand the supremacy of her nature and tries to subdue it in the most heinous manner ever. It is us, who should try and act in tandem to this attitude of some men who think raping a woman would kill her soul and make her defunct, or those who think women belong only in the kitchen when the sun is up and in the bedroom after sun down. It sickens me, and I am trying to find and answer to the question, whose fault is it, i would like some help before the spark dies in me too….so somebody?? Anybody???
